When you see this selfie, it seems like a happy couple or some friends taking a pic together. Just like any other person on social media, right? Well, these people are different. The following is a caption that is paired with the photo above:
“Here’s Chris Neuman and I [Shannon Neuman] yesterday after filing for divorce! But we’re smiling?! Yep, we’re kooky like that. Are we smiling because the partner we chose for forever turned out not to be the forever partner we needed? Of course not. We’re smiling because we have done something extraordinary (we think anyway!) We have respectfully, thoughtfully and honourably ended our marriage in a way that will allow us to go forward as parenting partners for our children, the perfect reason that this always WAS meant to be, so they will never have to choose. They’ll never have to wonder which side of the auditorium to run to after their Christmas concert or spring play, because we’ll be sitting together. They won’t have to struggle with their own wedding planning because we’ll be sitting on the same side of the aisle – THEIR side. We have struggled, but we have succeeded in the plan we came up with together, to come out on the other side as their two parents who live in two houses who give them two teams to love them up two times as much. And now that you know it’s possible – please consider our way if you find yourself on this road, or share our message if we can help remind them that it’s possible to love your kids more than you hate/distrust/dislike your ex (which we have felt at times on the journey but for the record we do actually like each other). Nice work #teamneuman #divorceselfie”
I tip my my hat to these guys! Seriously, if only there were more couples like these two.
This photo went completely viral and it’s all because of their honesty and their drive keep their family together. You NEVER see divorced couples like this.
“We weren’t celebrating with the pic, we were commemorating the accomplishment of a goal that we worked really hard to reach, together,” Shannon told The Huffington Post. “If we were celebrating, it was the completion of the process and coming out on the other side as friends … If it helps any couples struggling (even if they’re complete strangers to us!) then I think that’s awesome and it makes me feel super proud.”
Chris, Shannon’s former husband, gave his two cents and echoed how much a priority the kids are in a situation like this.
Do you want to know why this friendship is able to go on? Because of their honesty. Nowadays, no one is EVER honest because it is incredibly tough. Lying is so much easier. You tell a lie, the person gets off your case and that’s it. But to be honest, own up to your own mistakes, and admit that they were wrong is extremely difficult. I mean, check out these two.
Their names are Andrew and Ali and they ask immensely, hard-hitting questions. The kind of questions that people would cringe over and it is very clear that these two are terribly uncomfortable. Questions like “Why did you cheat on me?” or “What would you warn my next boy/girlfriend about?” are the kind of questions that no one ever wants to ask, but hey, the honesty is refreshing, very real, and it gives closure to what was left behind. It feels incredibly nice and reassuring.
So in conclusion, honesty is so much better than sugar-coated BS. If you’re honest, you won’t hurt anyone. If you lie, not only will you hurt the person you’re lying to, but you will hurt yourself and everyone else around you. Believe me.